To armor oneself with knowledge:

"Before diagnosing yourself with __________, or ____________, first, make sure that you aren't surrounded by idoits(or narrow minded people)."

"Its the terrible spirit within these kind of people. Uneducated parents pass this actions down to their family. Lack of wisdom,information and understanding is what make people the way they are.

Jesus said pray for those who maliciously use you and forgive those who despise you for no excellent reason.
People who delight in unreasonably hurting others doubtless suffer from some type of abuse or maltreatment in their life. Some have become numb and have no regret for others."

http://www.all-things-conflict-resolution-and-adr.com/All-Things-Dealing-with-Difficult-People.html

"Negative people often gravitate toward others who react strongly–people who easily offer compassionate or get outraged, or offended. I suspect this gives them a little light in the darkness of their inner world–a sense that they’re not floating alone in their own anger or sadness.

People remember and learn from what you do more than what you say. If you feed into the situation with emotions, you’ll teach them they can depend on you for a reaction. It’s tough not to react because we’re human, but it’s worth practicing."

-and all this while i had been wondering why i seem to attract the wrong sort of people...-_-